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Deciding Who Gets a Plus-One & Who Doesn't

Updated: Feb 7

Creating your guest list is a tricky part in wedding planning, but have you thought about those plus-ones? Deciding who gets a plus-one and who doesn't can be difficult, but we are here with a few pointers when you are trying to figure this out.

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What is a Plus One?

A plus-one is allowing your guest that is typically unmarried to bring a plus-one to your wedding. At some weddings, even single friends may be allowed a plus-one. At other weddings with less room, maybe guests can only bring the plus-one if they are married.

Should Everyone Get a Plus-One?

This question is ultimately up to you! If you have extra room in the budget and extra room at your venue, you may want to allow anyone to bring a plus-one. Though if you are on a tighter budget and do not have as much space at your venue, this may be something you really have to think about who you are going to allow to bring a plus-one.

Who Should Get a Plus One?

Married Guests

Typically speaking, all married guests should be allowed to bring their spouse. Even if you are only close to one of the people, you should still allow them to bring their spouse. I mean, would you really want to attend a wedding if you were not allowed to spring your spouse?

Couples who are engaged, living together, or have been together for a good amount of time should typically get a plus-one as well. In this day and age, many people wait a long time before they tie the knot. Allowing guests like these a plus-one shows them that you acknowledge your commitment.

Your Wedding Party

Anyone in your wedding party should especially be allowed a plus-one. It doesn't mean you are forcing them to bring a date if they don't have one, but regardless they will appreciate the offer. After all, they were there for you on the biggest day of your life.

Who Doesn't Need a Plus One?

Guests Who are not in a Serious or Long-Term Relationship

If there are guests who you never know if they are dating, or have a very new significant other, etc you may not need to give them a plus-one.

Single Guests Who You are Not Close With

Say your mom wants you to invite your cousin you have not seen since you were 5 and they are not in a relationship - you do not have to feel obligated to give this type of guest a plus-one.

Deciding who gets a plus-one and who doesn't isn't easy, but you can do it! Just remember, this is your day and you need to do what is best for you and your partner.



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